A few weeks ago, I mentioned there is a way to everything. The more I look at the laws in all things, the more I realize there is a path. There are certain paths in our daily lives, which we often call the path of life.

  All of us, including myself, live in relationships, and I think communication is indispensable in those relationships. For that communication, we have to say and do a lot of words. But I think that words also have their own patterns or paths.

  I would like to call it a speech pattern, or in other words, a habit of speaking. In our communication, there are people who have this speech pattern and people who do not. According to the English dictionary, a person without a word's habit is a rude or impolite person. Strictly speaking, I think it's more appropriate to say that they have bad manners rather than rude.

  People with good speaking habits seem to be welcomed and recognized wherever they go. It's also common to see that people with good manners are a force for good. How is this possible? My observation is that it's because it's a habit that's instilled in them by their parents.

  In general, there are some people who are blessed with good speech. I think it's a bit different than just being a good speaker. A person with a good way of speaking seems to have a special ability to make people around them feel comfortable and cheer them up. I think such a person is a peacemaker.

  I took it a step further and thought more deeply about how this kind of behavior is possible, and the word that came to mind was “bowl”. A few months ago, I watched a YouTube video where Mr. Kim, Chang-wook said that when looking for a spouse, look for someone with a good bowl. He went on to say that such a person should have a good native language (mother tongue).

  That's right. I agree that tongues have bowls. They will eat what is in their bowl and what they eat will come out of their mouths. In the end, it's the same thing, but good speech and a good bowl come from a healthy family, which is where the native language comes from.

  If that home is not healthy, then the next best thing is to belong to a healthy community with good speech and good bowl, and I hope and pray that such a community is our home and church. I want to be a good neighbor with good speech and good manners.

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